Parenting in Jesus' Footsteps


A Book Review of James Dobson’s “The New Strong-Willed Child” by John H. Zack

If you like this book then you'll LOVE "SM 101: A Realistic Introduction" by Jay Wiseman and "The New Bottoming Book" by Dossie Easton & Janet W. Hardy. And another Dobson favorite, "Discipline With Love."

James Dobson "lovingly" guides parents to assume the dominant position over one's children so they are taught submission and obedience. Something he says they desperately need later in life. Paddling your children over the knee (OTK) prepares them for future "healthy" relationships as adults mixing pain with pleasure. Dobson says it's not enough to just beat your child, you have to immediately comfort and tell them you love them.

This imprints on the child's brain a connection that love has to hurt and making love can only be satisfying if pain is involved. Essentially "reliving" the humiliation they experienced as children.

"The reason I suggest a switch or paddle is because the hand should be seen as an object of love - to hold, hug, pat, and caress. However, if you're used to suddenly disciplining with the hand, your child may not know when she's about to be swatted and can develop a pattern of flinching when you make an unexpected move. This is not a problem if you take the time to use a neutral object."

Thank goodness! Because making your child's bottom red really can sting your hands! Better to use something that doesn't cause pain to the giver, only the receiver should experience pain. That would insure the dominant/submissive relationship stays "pure." "Pain is a marvelous purifier," according to Dobson.

He says, "If corporal punishment is banned, it will be a sad day for families, and especially for children!"

It would also be a sad day for those who manufacture paddles and "rods" that not only are sold to beat children but for other "recreational" activities!

Thanks to Dobson this lifestyle is considered by many to be normal and healthy.

Here's a quote from Raven Kaldera, the author of "DARKNESS BOUND: Beyond Bondage and Discipline". "I'm sick. I've always been sick, as far back as I can remember. It's not just that I like my sex well spiced with pain; it's that the delicate dance of dominance and submission seems to be atavistically wired into my brain and my crotch." No doubt his parents were fans of Dobson's books!

To any parent that doesn't think that paddling your child isn't sexual abuse I ask this: If an adult not related to you says that he would like to take your child over his knee and give them a spanking, wouldn't you assume that he has some sick perversion? But it's not perverted when you do it to your own kid???

For those who have been damaged by Dobson's demented advice, I highly recommend "Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life" by Susan Forward and "Beginning to Heal: A First Book for Men and Women Who Were Sexually Abused As Children" written by Ellen Bass & Laura Davis.

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